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On Jill Egizii's Parental Alienation Radio podcast this month the point was made by dad and lawyer, Brian Ludmer, that the most common trait to all aligning parents is that they want to be the only contact name on the school records. I didn't have to listen to this radio broadcast twice to jump out of my seat at finally hearing some expert say it out loud.

Here in British Columbia, last September it took months to get students registered for school (K-12) because of our broken school database, called BCeSIS, which probably stands for something like British Columbia electronic School Information System. At any rate, teachers say this software is slow and doesn't allow schools to add or update student information, which is the whole purpose of the software. When you add to this software malfunction, the fact that the 80% of divorced parents are actively trying to conceal student information, you end up with a recipe for child abuse. Until now I believed the parental alienation incidence rate was 25%, but Brian points out that Dr. Amy Baker has set the incidence rate at 80%. I also found an article by the American Bar Association that also sets the prevalence rate at 80%. Aligning parents don't believe they are abusing if they simply forget to mention to school staff that they are divorced, they can claim they didn't think it was important, or the other parent can mention it if they want.

In the first article about Jill and Brian's broadcast, entitled Too Much Discussion To Be Unaware, I have already mentioned Brian's list of possible motivators, causing a parent to alienate a child even with all of the information out there about how damaging it is to children. At first only female parents aligned their children against their own family, then the problem grew until half aligning parents were male. Now we are starting to see other adults join in this abuse. I believe that teaching is an honourable profession and teachers are motivated to stand up for children. I hope we are going to see BC teachers actively fighting to save Middle school children from this growing epidemic that hurts kids in so many ways - and in some ways doctors probably don't even know about yet. Our Education Minister, George Abbott, expects schools to receive new database software by 2014. By then, we will have had two years with our new parent communication technologies and hopefully all divorced parents in Abbotsford will be receiving report cards by email and automated daily attendance reports by telephone. Because teachers care about children, they need to protect our schools and our future by protecting the parent-child relationship.

Last year 22 nations participated in the 6th Annual International Parental Alienation & Bubbles of Love Day. Only 86 days left till the 7th Annual International Parental Alienation Event.