Abbotsford School Board Endorses Awareness

*                                 ABBOTSFORD SCHOOL DISTRICT #34

*                                               BOARD OF TRUSTEES               

*             In the Name and By the Authority of the of the Ministry of Education

                                                     ENDORSEMENT
WHEREAS: alienating behaviors are often found in high conflict divorce and custody situations;

WHEREAS: these behaviors, such as speaking negatively about a parent to or in front of a child, interfering with communication and visitation, and discussing inappropriate information with a child, such as details of the marriage, court proceedings, or financial matters, can not only destroy the bond between a loving parent and child, but can cause mental and emotional harm to the child; and

WHEREAS: Parental Alienation takes advantage of the suggestibility and dependency of children; and
             
WHEREAS: Parental Alienation deprives children of their right to love and be loved by both parents; and

WHEREAS: Parental Alienation is considered harmful to children as the alienating tactics used on the children are confusing, frightening, and rob children of their sense of security; and

WHEREAS: Professionals agree that the problem of Parental Alienation is damaging  to children and can affect them into adulthood with tragic consequences; and

WHEREAS: There are more than 2.4 million divorced North Americans including the parents of more than one million children under the age of eighteen, with nearly as  many unmarried couples with children separating; and

WHEREAS: With awareness comes education and understanding, and the power to stop the abuse of innocent children caught in the crossfire of the people they love:

NOW, THEREFORE, I, John Sutherland, Chairperson of the Board of Trustees, do hereby endorse April 25th , 2020, as
       PARENTAL ALIENATION AWARENESS DAY

In Testimony Whereof, I have hereunto
Subscribed my name and caused the great
Seal of the Ministry of Education to be affixed. Done at  Abbotsford  this Februrary 14, 2012

OUR ENDORSEMENT MIGHT HAVE SOME COLOUR

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Happy Feb 2 Groundhog Day. In Canada, Wiarton Willie, a groundhog that lives in Wiarton, Ontario, came out of his hole and seeing nothing scary left the impression we will have an early spring, with crocuses and cherry blossoms. Punxsutawney Phil, a groundhog that lives in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvannia, USA came out, saw a scary shadow, predicting 6 more weeks of winter.

Dr. Kathleen, who works out of Penticton, knows that parental alienation is a scary thing for children and offered a Twitter Chat at lunch yesterday (Feb 1) to help heal alienated families. Her topic was Therapist Alienation, which is a problem that happens when inexperienced professionals involved in parental alienation side with the aligning parent - a problem similar to the third party involvement in alignments we have seen in Abbotsford. The only other person I have ever seen run a Twitter Chat was the Minister of Education. So not only is Dr. Kathleen an alienation expert, but she's also technology savvy too. I hope this knowledgeable alienation professional from our own province is able to help children.

I started out to write a blog listing as many Leaders in the the War against Alienation as I knew. I was motivated by this 2009 video about the Canadian Synposium on PAS, which lists some experts I don't know. There were two other inspiring points about this conference, first 2,000 lawyers from around North America attended, billed as the most important educational conference ever organized. Second, the now-famous Florida parental alienation trials had just finished up then, and one of the lawyers interviewed about the 2009 conference said those new Florida custody laws would be coming to Canada. It's 2012 now, and I don't see anything like the Florida family laws yet. A couple days ago on Facebook, Jean-Paul from France, cited Scandinavian countries for having family laws that protect children from alienation. Here in Abbotsford, we see school, courts and mental health professionals ignoring parental alienation and by their inaction participating in this epidemic abuse. This situation leaves the Harper government legally exposed because it has promised through the United Nations Convenant of the Child to protect children, not ignore them.

In Alberta, Premier Redford has been winning the war against the Oil Sands by shutting down the us-vs-Ottawa, us-versus-them campaign and switching to a How-Can-We-Work-Together Campaign. For parents, trying to partner with such intransigent groups as teachers and family court judges will be difficult, but perhaps not impossible. The University of the Fraser Valley is trying to start up a Paralegal Course, because employment counsellors predict we will need 130,000 social workers and paralegals in the south Fraser River area over the next decade to deal with the parental alienation epidemic. To a dad, like me, this just means the status quo of legal professionals taking money from parents that our children need to deal with an iatrogenic disease - a government-created disease. At least Dr. Kathleen is taking us into a really important discussion that we need to have about healing our children to protect our future.

Last year 22 nations participated in the 6th Annual International Parental Alienation & Bubbles of Love Day. Only 84 days left till the 7th Annual International Parental Alienation Event.

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On Jill Egizii's Parental Alienation Radio podcast this month the point was made by dad and lawyer, Brian Ludmer, that the most common trait to all aligning parents is that they want to be the only contact name on the school records. I didn't have to listen to this radio broadcast twice to jump out of my seat at finally hearing some expert say it out loud.

Here in British Columbia, last September it took months to get students registered for school (K-12) because of our broken school database, called BCeSIS, which probably stands for something like British Columbia electronic School Information System. At any rate, teachers say this software is slow and doesn't allow schools to add or update student information, which is the whole purpose of the software. When you add to this software malfunction, the fact that the 80% of divorced parents are actively trying to conceal student information, you end up with a recipe for child abuse. Until now I believed the parental alienation incidence rate was 25%, but Brian points out that Dr. Amy Baker has set the incidence rate at 80%. I also found an article by the American Bar Association that also sets the prevalence rate at 80%. Aligning parents don't believe they are abusing if they simply forget to mention to school staff that they are divorced, they can claim they didn't think it was important, or the other parent can mention it if they want.

In the first article about Jill and Brian's broadcast, entitled Too Much Discussion To Be Unaware, I have already mentioned Brian's list of possible motivators, causing a parent to alienate a child even with all of the information out there about how damaging it is to children. At first only female parents aligned their children against their own family, then the problem grew until half aligning parents were male. Now we are starting to see other adults join in this abuse. I believe that teaching is an honourable profession and teachers are motivated to stand up for children. I hope we are going to see BC teachers actively fighting to save Middle school children from this growing epidemic that hurts kids in so many ways - and in some ways doctors probably don't even know about yet. Our Education Minister, George Abbott, expects schools to receive new database software by 2014. By then, we will have had two years with our new parent communication technologies and hopefully all divorced parents in Abbotsford will be receiving report cards by email and automated daily attendance reports by telephone. Because teachers care about children, they need to protect our schools and our future by protecting the parent-child relationship.

Last year 22 nations participated in the 6th Annual International Parental Alienation & Bubbles of Love Day. Only 86 days left till the 7th Annual International Parental Alienation Event.

A List of Parental Alienation Experts

This is Dr. Richard Gardner and Vancouver dad and lawyer, Carey Linde, working on an old parental alienation case. Dr. Gardner was a respected scientist and history has upheld his legacy.

Dr. Kathleen Reay is a respected parental alienation expert, working out of Penticton, British Columbia. She is a clinician, researcher, child custody evaluator, litigation-related PA/PAS expert, speaker and author of Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents. Dr. Reay consults with parents, grandparents, step-parents, mental health professionals and legal professionals globally. She is the Founder and Director of the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies, Vancouver, B.C.

I first heard Brian on Jill Egizii's radio show. 

Here's Mr. Ludmer's credentials: 

Brian Ludmer, B. Comm., LLB.,

Barrister & Solicitor, Toronto, Ont.

PAS Legal Expert & North American PAS Legal Consultant

Jill Egizii is an alienated mom and an author, working out of Leland Grove, Illinois, USA. Judge Michele F. Lowrance has spent 20 years as a domestic-relations lawyer and has been a domestic-relations judge in the Circuit Court of Cook County, and is the author of the Good Karma Divorce.

Dr. Warshak is a psychologist and author of Divorce Poison: How To Protect Your Family From Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing, now in its 24th printing, and co-author of the critically acclaimed DVD for children and parents, Welcome Back, Pluto: Understanding, Preventing, and Overcoming Parental Alienation.

Dr. Joshua Coleman is Co-Chair of the Council on Contemporary Families and is a psychologist with a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.




This page is under development, and there are many other names to add, but here is the list of other famous names from the Conference video. Dr. Michael Bone has sent me a few pages that were very helpful. Many of the other doctors quote Amy J.L. Baker's work among other game-changers.

1. Demosthenes Lorandos
2. Pamela Richardson
3. Amy J.L. Baker
4. J. Michael Bone
5. Jane Major
6. Richard Sauber
7. Terence Campbell
8. Douglas Darnell
9. Dr. Glenn Ross Caddy
10. Abraham Worenklein
11. Gene Colman
12. Anne-France Goldwater
13. Pamela Stuart-Mills Hoch
14. Bob Hoch
15. David L. Levy
16. Michael Gough
17. C. Gwendolyn Landolt
18. Susan Cook
19. Dr. Marty McKay
20. Godfrey T.A. Turnbull
21. Bob Finlay